Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Hey, Big Man!!

I started thinking of you today in the very early hours of the morning. I was only barely awake. I've been trying to scrape together a Halloween costume that your little brother, Squib, will actually wear. He's announced to me that Handy Manny or Bob the Builder would be "cool." So, I've mined his collection of button-down shirts for plaid work shirts and denim shorts/pants. I've gathered some 4-year-old sized tools and he can carry them around somehow. There's the rub. I don't have a tool box like Handy Manny. Time for Mommy to get creative, huh?

So what are you going to be? Do you know yet? Of course, there's no law that says you have to dress up as anything. I thought you were just the cutest thing ever when you were Wags the dog from the Wiggles. You're so tall, though!!! If you grow to be as tall as Poppa, you're going to have to be the Eiffel tower one day. You know....if he'd agree to be the Empire State Building, you'd make a cute little King Kong :).

You'd be a perfect wizard with a tall pointy hat or a magician like Harry Potter (only you're way better than Harry) We'll just see!!

It was nice to buy clothes for you yesterday. I have so missed doing that! There were so very many things that I wanted to get, but I restrained myself. When I get to see you more often and you visit with me here, then we can go nuts in the store together buying clothes and pajamas that you can keep here. That will make for a fun day!!!

I have a friend named Laura. She's a little younger than me and her son Bobby has a lot of the same challenges that you do. Guess what? Just like you, he spent time this summer in day programs and with other kids and they found out that he needs to be in a higher grade! Today is his first day in a new class! Bobby is, of course, going to have to work hard, but he's like you and is very caring and loving and loves to go to school and work hard. So, you see, little one, there are others out there like you who are making their way in this world. I've never had any doubts about you. You've been a fighter from day one. Quietly persevering without even so much as a struggle (except during physical therapy)....you will go far because you know of things that few ever learn or experience.

But remember this...I will always be more proud of you than of any other little boy or girl in the world no matter what you do!!! Well, you AND Squib.

We have seen Lydia and Joseph for the last time and that is so sad, is it not? I guess I understand their choice and their commitment to have their relationship on their own terms. I just don't think I could ever make the choice Lydia made. Or Joseph for that matter. But, then, we don't have all the facts, do we? And until we do, we will just keep them in our prayers even if that means we pray for them for seven years or more!

Life was never meant to be this way, little one. There are many days I wish I stuck it out with your Daddy and did the hard work it would have taken to stay together. But your Daddy has grown into a mature, unique man and he's a neat guy. I'm glad you have a Poppa like him. My growing up took longer,maybe--hard to say, but I'm doing it, too. And we 100% agree on one thing. We love you.

There's nothing in the world like you, Beanstalk.
Mama